10 Great Things About Coming Out – #5


#5: I can finally use the men’s room!

Going into the ladies room has always felt awkward. But it wasn’t until after I came out that it felt extremely awkward. The last time I had to go to the women’s room was last September during jury duty. I was still figuring out the whole bathroom thing (what to do about bathroom use when you’re Trans) and being in a place like a court of law, I was afraid of creating a big fuss about it (which I did not want), so I had no choice but to swallow my pride and go into the ladies room – at least for the last time in my life. April (if I remember correctly) was the first time I ever went into the men’s room. It was a single-person bathroom so it wasn’t a big deal, but I was still pretty nervous when I entered it. Just earlier this month, I went into a regular men’s restroom (where more than one person can go) and I was pretty nervous about that so I had one of my male relatives take me there. I wasn’t as bad as I thought. I actually enjoyed it and felt a great sense of accomplishment. I can tell you right now that I feel more at home in the men’s room. I never really felt at home in the girls room – for one, I was always the first one out, and second, I never bothered to make eye contact with anyone since I was more focused on getting in and out of there as quickly as possible (all of this came naturally to me, It wasn’t forced).

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A Computer’s Life: The Adventure Begins

This is the first story in the “A Computer’s Life” series. This one’s about how Ethan met Ian and Ivan. (Or in other words, how a ThinkPad T60 met a pair of identical twin T61’s.)

It was a pleasant, summer afternoon in East Hampton, New York. Ethan Turner was in town – having flown all the way from Southern California to stay in his Hamptons vacation home – and decided to spend some time at the beach. Later, he decided to check out some of the places in town.

Ethan was just walking around when he encountered Ian Garten and his mom, Ina. They were having dinner together while at the same time making some finishing touches on Ina’s webpage – which contained one of her recipes. Ian diverted his attention away from his mom when he spotted Ethan. Curious to know him more, he went over to him and introduced himself to Ethan.

“Hi there,” He said. “I’m Ian, what’s your name?” “Hey there Ian,” Ethan said. “I’m Ethan. Nice to meet you.” “It’s nice to meet you too, Ethan.” Ian said. “Come over here and hang out with us.” “Okay.” Ethan said.

So Ethan went over to hang out with Ian and his mom. Ian introduced him to his mom, who seemed very happy to meet him. As they were talking, Ian asked “So, are you from around here?” “Well, I’m not exactly from around here. By that, I mean that I didn’t grow up around here. But I do have vacation home here.” Ethan answered. “That’s cool.” Ian responded. “I, myself, are from around here. Was born and raised here, as was my twin brother Ivan and older sister Debbie.” “You have a twin brother?” Ethan asked. “Yes.” Ian answered. “I have a twin brother. In fact, there he is.”

Ivan came over to where Ian, Ethan, and Ina were. He then asked, “Hey Ian, who’s your friend?” “Hey Ivan,” Ian said. “Meet Ethan.” “Hi Ethan” Ivan said. “It’s very nice to meet you.” “Hi Ivan” Ethan said. “It’s very nice to meet you too.” “So where are you from, Ethan?” Ivan asked. “I’m from Southern California,” Ethan answered. “But I have a vacation home here.” “That’s nice.” Ivan said. “I would like to have a second home in California, as would Ian and my sister Debbie.”

“So what do you do for a living, Ethan?” Ivan asked. “I’m a music producer, lyricist, DJ, and rapper.” Ethan answered. “I also do graphic design.” “That’s nice.” Ivan responded. “I’m a chef. I’m working on a cookbook and I’m planning on starting a TV show and specialty food store, just like my mom. My sister Debbie is doing the same thing.” “I’m a video/film producer and director.” Ian said. “I’m planning on opening my own production company soon.”

Ethan seemed to be very comfortable with his new friends, and his new friends seemed to like him very well. They were quickly becoming good friends. Soon, it was getting late and everyone had to go home. Ian and Ivan decided to invite Ethan to come to their parents home the next day, so he could meet the rest of their family and hangout some more.

“Well, we have to go now.” Ian said. “Do you want to come over tomorrow to our parents house and meet the rest of our family…and hangout some more?” “I would love to!” Ethan enthusiastically said. “Great!” Ian said. He then gave Ethan the directions to his parents house, otherwise known as ‘the family home’.

“We’ll see you tomorrow Ethan!” Ivan said. “I’ll see you guys tomorrow as well!” Ethan said.

…And they all took off.

A Computer’s Life: Brian

Brian, the Lenovo ThinkPad R500

In this installment of “A Computer’s Life”, I am personifying a ThinkPad R500 named Brian. The picture above is a stock image from Lenovo, and I’m using it to represent him. This is how Brian would be like if he were human (in other words, here’s a short biography of him):

This is Brian Gallagher. He’s 31 years old. He is the stepfather of Ethan, whom he adopted when Ethan was 12. He has a fiance named Meredith Stewart. His father is Matthew Gallagher, a psychologist in North Carolina. His mother is Sharon Gallagher, a psychiatrist in North Carolina. Brian is an only child from Greenville, North Carolina.

Brian is a coach specializing in training people in creative fields to become better at what they’re doing by helping them work with the techniques related to their profession and with motivation, as well as helping them improve their lives in order for them to work more effectively. His approach is very radical and has been praised by many – including clients – for helping them become more focused on what they’re doing and being more consistent with their work. It has a fun a relaxing nature, which feels almost second-nature. He is running his own business along with his fiance, Meredith. He is considered one of the top coaches in his field.

Brian has a fun, charismatic, and friendly personality. Everyone loves being around him, and clients love working with him – he makes everybody feel great. People can always count on him to cheer them up and make them feel better when they’re feeling down. He and Ethan really get along and Ethan just loves him – he can count on Brian to give him great advice when he needs it, and he can always come to Brian for anything.

A Computer’s Life: Ethan

Ethan, the Lenovo ThinkPad T60

In this installment of “A Computer’s Life”, I am personifying a ThinkPad T60 (with a 14.1” screen) named Ethan. This is how Ethan would be like if he were human (in other words, here’s a short biography of him, as well as a short semi-autobiography of me – that’s right, that T60 would be me if I were a computer):

This is Ethan Turner. He is 22 years old. He has two siblings, a twin brother and a younger brother. He has a step-father named Brian Gallagher, a coach specializing in training people in creative fields to become better at what they’re doing by helping them with techniques to related to their profession and with motivation, as well as helping them improve their lives in order for them to work more effectively. His step-mother is Meredith Stewart, who does the same thing as Brian. Ethan’s biological parents gave him and his brothers up for adoption, when Ethan was 12, because they were just too dysfunctional to raise them. He was born in Fountain Valley, California and was raised in Santa Ana, California.

Ethan is a new and emerging artist (in music and design), entertainer, entrepreneur, and brand. His genre in music is hip-hop – he raps, writes, and produces – but he wants to work in other genres as well a bit later. His specialty in design is graphic design. He’s been entertaining since he was little and seems to be a natural at it. He plans on starting an arts and entertainment business named ThinkLab, which is going to function as a record/entertainment company and design firm. In addition, he advocates for Lenovo because he loves the company and really believes in them. He may not have a lot of work out there (he is just starting out) but he has big plans and has the creativity, drive, and motivation to succeed on a big scale.

Ethan can be just like his friend Ryan – quiet a lot of the time and a little shy sometimes, but likes to socialize as long as he’s engaged. Like Ryan, he generally prefers to let his talents and actions do the talking. But don’t be fooled by his silence, Ethan loves to get loose and go wild – especially when it comes to entertaining people (he loves this and has been doing it since he was little) and when hanging out with friends and family. He loves to have fun and seems to have a love for life – you can almost always see him with a smile on his face. In addition, he is always being nice and respectful towards other people, which is something that they really love and appreciate.

A Computer’s Life: Debbie

Debbie, the MacBook Pro

In this installment of “A Computer’s Life”, I’m personifying a MacBook Pro (with a 15.4” screen), whom I named Debbie. You can see her on the cooking show Barefoot Contessa: Back to Basics, seasons 1, 2, and 3 on the Food Network. The picture above is a snapshot taken from Barefoot Contessa: Back To Basics: Season 3, episode: “Cooking for Beginners”. This is how she would be like if she were human (or in other words, here’s a short biography about her):

This is Debbie Garten. She is 24 years old. She is the older sister of Ivan and Ian, and just like them, she has an older brother. In addition, her mother is Ina Garten and her father is Jeffrey Garten, as well. She was born and raised in East Hampton, New York.

Just like Ivan, Debbie is an up and coming chef and author and people are seeing potential in her. She is planning on launching a series of cookbooks, a TV show, and a specialty food store like him. She has not yet revealed what she likes to call herself because she is still unsure whether she likes it or not, or whether or not its a good fit for her. She decided to take the same career route like her mom and Ivan because she got to see how much fun her mom was having and how fun cooking was that she was instantly hooked. She really enjoys cooking alongside her mom and Ivan, as well as having Ian film her/their cooking.

Debbie can relate to both of her parents and seems to have things in common with both of them in equal amounts. She’s into the same stuff as the rest of her family and has the same kind of personality that her mother and Ivan have. She is enthusiastic, energetic, and very sociable. She is very fun to be around with and always seems to say the right thing to people. Overall, Debbie has an infectious personality that attracts people to her – she gets along with just about everyone.

A Computer’s Life: Brent

A representation of Brent, the Lenovo ThinkPad W510

In this installment of “A Computer’s Life”, I’m a personifying a ThinkPad W510, whom I named Brent. The picture above is a stock picture from Lenovo (its a representation of him). This is how Brent would be like if he were human (or in other words, here’s a short biography about him):

This is Brent Hobbes. He is 21 years old. His father is a painter. His mother is an illustrator and page designer. He was born and raised in Miami, Florida.

Brent is a new and emerging artist. His areas of expertise are painting, illustration, and photo editing and manipulation. His artwork can be described as “organic” and “sophisticated”. He is a freelance artist and is ranked as one of the best in the business. In addition, he plays bass guitar and is considered one of the best up-and-comers. He has a unique playing style that sounds fresh and original – a type of sound that nobody has ever heard of before.

Brent is generally a laid-back, adventurous type of guy. He’s very friendly, gets along with just about everyone, and doesn’t take anything too seriously. He’s outgoing, a bit outrageous at times, and loves a good laugh. He has a daring personality – he is willing to take on anything that sounds “too risky” to other people and loves trying out new things. Overall, he has an infectious personality that people are attracted to – they just love being around him.

A Computer’s Life: Ryan

Ryan, the ThinkPad W500

In this installment of “A Computer’s Life”, I’m personifying a ThinkPad W500, whom I named Ryan. You can see pictures of him on http://www.flickr.com/photos/kamikura/2799495268/ , http://www.flickr.com/photos/kamikura/2798645255/ ,and http://www.flickr.com/photos/kamikura/2798645109/ . The picture above is taken from http://www.flickr.com/photos/kamikura/2799436309/, so credits for this picture go to Masaru Kamikura. This is how Ryan would be like if he were human (in other words, here’s a short biography about him):

This is Ryan Masaru. He is 23 years old. His father is a freelance photographer and journalist. His mother is an industrial designer. He has a unique upbringing as his father is of Japanese decent and his mother is of African decent. He was born and raised in San Francisco, California.

Ryan is an upcoming drummer and industrial designer. He has a deep passion for drumming and industrial design and is seen by many as the next big thing in both fields. He has a drumming style that is crazy and innovative – it is stylish, offbeat, and unique. He says that his biggest influence is Ringo Starr and that he gets his style from him. On the design side, Ryan gets the majority of his design style from – and is highly influenced by – Japanese art and design. Since his father’s side of the family is Japanese, Ryan grew up around Japanese culture and got to see it first-hand – he thinks its elegant, stylish, and functional. His designs are unique, sophisticated, and functional.

Ryan is quiet a lot of the time (but does like to socialize) and can be a bit shy sometimes. He has a gentle nature and is charismatic. He generally likes to let his talents and actions do the talking. He does have a wild side though – when the time presents itself (mostly when he’s drumming or hanging out with his friends), he likes to get loose. In addition, Ryan is into Photography and does it as a hobby, and he has a love for animals as well. Overall, Ryan is loveable, great to be around with, and loves to have a great time. He’s a very interesting person, who has a unique family history and cultural upbringing.